In this episode, Dee talks about compatibility. What is compatibility? What are some points of compatibility to discuss with people you are in close relation to? (This episode sets up the next few episodes about how to determine compatibility, negotiating relationships, how to reconcile differing communication methods, and navigating and communicating relationship expectations.)
Tag: intimacy
Emotional Intelligence
In this episode, Dee talks about emotional intelligence. What is emotional intelligence? How do you determine how much emotional intelligence a person has? When do you know you're not compatible with someone in regards to emotional intelligence, and what do you do with that information? Things mentioned in the episode: Summer Rain - Dwell Tea… Continue reading Emotional Intelligence
Let’s Talk About Sex, Part 1: Addressing Shame & Stigma
In this episode, Alex Rich joins DeeRae to talk about sex, sexuality, sexual health, addressing the sexual shame that comes from purity culture, and destigmatizing STIs. GUEST INFO: Alex Rich, Sexologoy Bae Instagram: @sexologybae Twitter: @GeauxSeeTheLady Things mentioned in the episode: Winter Wake Up Tea Just Add Honey Tea Co Study re: ENM & STI… Continue reading Let’s Talk About Sex, Part 1: Addressing Shame & Stigma
Being Vulnerable
In this episode, Dee talks about vulnerability - what is it and what are ways to foster vulnerability in your relationships. Things mentioned in the episode: Spellbound LLC TRANSCRIPT
Connections, Not Configurations
In this episode, Dee talks about the importance of cultivating intimacy and connections -- instead of focusing on what kind of super specific configuration you want. Things mentioned in the episode: Biron Tea SipsBy Tea What Will Had To Say TRANSCRIPT
Foundations: Steps to Discovering What You Really Want in Non-Monogamy
In this episode, Dee talks about the thing she wish most people thought about in regards to non-monogamy foundational work: determining what you want out of nonmonogamy and relationships, in general and specifically. Things mentioned in the episode: Relationship Anarchy Smorgasboard (clearer picture here) Relationship Manifesto/Care & Feeding Manual TRANSCRIPT
“I Can Barely Keep One Happy!”: Exploring the Concept of Bandwidth
In this episode, Dee talks about the idea that the capacity someone has for giving versus receiving love is scalable, exploring what your bandwidth is, and Dunbar's number. Things mentioned in the episode: Adagio Teas Kentucky Bourbon Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson's confirmation hearing Dunbar's Number TRANSCRIPT
connection
Dangerous Cliffs Signs People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them and their response is "you're safe with me" - that's intimacy. Little known fact about me: I… Continue reading connection
bandwidth
The various ways that people differ is so interesting for me; I love talking about how others think and order their lives and then speculate on how that - on how they - came about. Sometimes I think I should have studied sociology, or anthropology, or psychology...then I remember I'm just nosy. Ha! Anywho, since… Continue reading bandwidth
relationship anarchy is not limited to non-monogamy
Anja Ciupka, Love Is Not Exclusive Lately, I've been receiving a lot of surveys about non-monogamy that provide a multiple choice list to choose your "style" of polyamory. All of them have listed "relationship anarchy" as a choice. I've also been in quite a bit of discussions where people casually mention that the ethical non-monogamy… Continue reading relationship anarchy is not limited to non-monogamy