Some of the questions I get asked most often from monogamous or polycurious folk are "Do you get jealous?" or "Don't you feel possessive?"One of my partners says they don't think I feel jealousy the way most people do. They're probably right. I have things that I like, want, and need, and as long as… Continue reading mine, but so much more than mine
https://mybillie.com/pages/projectbodyhair This is kind of random, but my feelings are all over the place these days (rightfully so). But I saw this little advert that was great and it made me think. I go through cycles, struggling with this. My skin is so sensitive and hair is so coarse that no matter what I try… Continue reading self-conscious
Ugly Duckling, painting by Kimberly Rasar After surviving the terrible high school years with a skin disorder that I learned to manage (mostly), I've generally had moderately clear but VERY even skin. No one would guess that I dealt with years of itching, pills, steroid shots, testing topical ointments, huge pus-filled blisters all over my… Continue reading beauty
I hate this term. For me, it implies that relationships are tests. Which means check the correct box, say the correct short answers, pick the "right" option (it's always C). It may be multiple choice, but there's really only one "best" answer, right⸮ Being a bit of a relationship anarchist, I mentally gagged typed that.… Continue reading failed relationships.
"After my divorce, I lost a great deal of confidence in my ability to judge the viability of relationships." I read this quote quite a few months ago, and even then I felt it. Deep within me, bouncing around my heart and my mind. It's been three months since I've written anything. I could promise… Continue reading doubt.
I recently was introduced to the concept of learned helplessness. Learned helplessness occurs when an animal is repeatedly subjected to an averse stimulus that it cannot escape. Eventually, the animal will stop trying to avoid the stimulus and behave as if it is utterly helpless to change the situation, even when opportunities to escape are… Continue reading helplessness.
Earlier this week, I officially filed for divorce. Since then, I have been emailed or facebooked by several people who know my ex, asking for me to give them a call. I refused. And they proceeded to tell me to be careful. That my ex has messaged or emailed or called them, threatening to harm… Continue reading better.