In this episode, Dee talks about effective communication and how to reconcile differing communication methods. Beyond communication, what does it mean to really comprehend what another person is saying? What are some strategies to translate your unique language and someone else's unique language so you are fully comprehending what you each want to get across?
Category: Communication
Points of Compatibility
In this episode, Dee talks about compatibility. What is compatibility? What are some points of compatibility to discuss with people you are in close relation to? (This episode sets up the next few episodes about how to determine compatibility, negotiating relationships, how to reconcile differing communication methods, and navigating and communicating relationship expectations.)
Emotional Intelligence
In this episode, Dee talks about emotional intelligence. What is emotional intelligence? How do you determine how much emotional intelligence a person has? When do you know you're not compatible with someone in regards to emotional intelligence, and what do you do with that information? Things mentioned in the episode: Summer Rain - Dwell Tea… Continue reading Emotional Intelligence
Let’s Talk About Sex, Part 1: Addressing Shame & Stigma
In this episode, Alex Rich joins DeeRae to talk about sex, sexuality, sexual health, addressing the sexual shame that comes from purity culture, and destigmatizing STIs. GUEST INFO: Alex Rich, Sexologoy Bae Instagram: @sexologybae Twitter: @GeauxSeeTheLady Things mentioned in the episode: Winter Wake Up Tea Just Add Honey Tea Co Study re: ENM & STI… Continue reading Let’s Talk About Sex, Part 1: Addressing Shame & Stigma
Being Vulnerable
In this episode, Dee talks about vulnerability - what is it and what are ways to foster vulnerability in your relationships. Things mentioned in the episode: Spellbound LLC TRANSCRIPT
Connections, Not Configurations
In this episode, Dee talks about the importance of cultivating intimacy and connections -- instead of focusing on what kind of super specific configuration you want. Things mentioned in the episode: Biron Tea SipsBy Tea What Will Had To Say TRANSCRIPT
Foundations: Steps to Discovering What You Really Want in Non-Monogamy
In this episode, Dee talks about the thing she wish most people thought about in regards to non-monogamy foundational work: determining what you want out of nonmonogamy and relationships, in general and specifically. Things mentioned in the episode: Relationship Anarchy Smorgasboard (clearer picture here) Relationship Manifesto/Care & Feeding Manual TRANSCRIPT
“I Can Barely Keep One Happy!”: Exploring the Concept of Bandwidth
In this episode, Dee talks about the idea that the capacity someone has for giving versus receiving love is scalable, exploring what your bandwidth is, and Dunbar's number. Things mentioned in the episode: Adagio Teas Kentucky Bourbon Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson's confirmation hearing Dunbar's Number TRANSCRIPT
mine, but so much more than mine
Some of the questions I get asked most often from monogamous or polycurious folk are "Do you get jealous?" or "Don't you feel possessive?"One of my partners says they don't think I feel jealousy the way most people do. They're probably right. I have things that I like, want, and need, and as long as… Continue reading mine, but so much more than mine
choose wisely
This is a reaction to this post. I don't hate monogamy. I hate that people don't make conscious choices. In today's society, the default is monogamy. A lot of people don't know that there are other options you can select from the pull-down menu of relationship styles. And a lot more people don't consider anything but… Continue reading choose wisely