“Disappointment comes with EVERY SINGLE CHOICE. I’ve learned to deal with my present disappointments since there are others I could be suffering.”
This was a comment an acquaintance made on one of my friend’s social media posts. I can’t remember if the post was about family, romantic relationships, or life in general, but regardless this comment hit me hard – as well as the number of people who agreed with it.
I didn’t realize that so many people felt so much regret in their lives.
Don’t get me wrong, I have regrets and disappointments with some of the decisions I’ve made. And I’ve definitely had “crossroads” where either choice would result in disappointment, and so I’ve had to pick the lesser one. But every single choice being like that? How do you get at that point in your life?
I can’t imagine always making choices that were so far from my desires and needs that every single one came with disappointment. Sometimes compromise is unavoidable. But there’s a limit, and you learn what your limit is as you grow as a person. I truly believe that there are times you must be selfish and make a decision solely based on what you want. Because if you don’t, you may end up living a life – experiencing a truth – where you’re constantly reassuring yourself that it’s okay that you’re miserable because you could be suffering a lot more.
Frankly, I refuse to believe that there isn’t a way to prevent yourself from that life.
describes the feeling of being tired of life; dissatisfied or restless with the current circumstances. It is a German compound noun made up of the words Leben (life) and müde (tired). It therefore literally translates to ‘life tired’.